Last week I wrote a blog on resentment, which, under most conditions, is simply the absence of forgiveness. 

Most of us resent someone or something at some point in our lives.  But what does this achieve?  Does this resentment somehow improve our state of being?  Does it provide is with a better life or a happier existence?  No.  None of the above. 

I read an article about Forgiveness and the power it has over the forgiver.  But forgiveness is all about letting go.  It is not about forgetting, but more about accepting and moving on with life in more positive ways. 

Resentment, especially between family or friends, can ruin lives and cripple otherwise beautiful relationships.  We all get angry sometimes and find that others don’t necessarily agree with our opinions or actions.  Disagreements are normal.  Although there are some books that can help people work through problems, both parties need to be willing to achieve a common goal in order for these books to work.

People don’t always want to change or see other points of view.  Agreeing to disagree and forgive are two powerful tools in resolving resentment.  Whether or not the other person wants to follow these rules is irrelevant.   Resentment in your life doesn’t provide you with any kind of positive feedback. On the contrary, chronic resentment causes stress and mental fatigue which results in other health problems. 

Realizing that we don’t all agree is crucial to life.  Not everyone will like you as much as you like yourself and not everyone will see your point of view however clear it may seem.  In cases of close relationships, sometimes its best to let go.  Resolve to avoid certain subjects and focus on the strong, healthy parts of your relationship instead. 

Positive visualization can be incredibly powerful.

It’s the new year.  Resolve resentment, forgive, and promise yourself to build positive relationships around you.  Forgiveness, you’ll find, is amazing.