Dating Phase 3:  The First Date – Part 2 – preparations

So you’ve figured out what to do on the first date.  Good.  It’s all planned out and flexible enough for you to change at a moment’s notice should you two decide to do something else.  In other words, make sure you didn’t purchase a non-refundable helicopter ride over the city and then find out she’s afraid of heights. 

Prepare to see her.  Wear something that is appropriate to both the activity and for her.  You want to look nice but not too dressy (unless you are going to a five-star restaurant).   Dressing up is a matter of respect.  By looking clean and smelling good, you automatically show her respect.  Good.

You want to smell good to HER not everyone in the room.  Wear cologne so that she can only smell you if she’s right next to you.  This is a trick.  You want her to get close so, assuming you’ve chosen a good cologne or aftershave, she’s going to need to stand close in order to smell you.  Women like men who smell good and she’ll find reasons to be next to you if she likes it. 

Brush your teeth before you go see her.  That’s easy.

Bring her a gift.  Imagination is important.  Women like flowers, but avoid roses, they are cliché for first dates.  If you end up in a relationship, roses are great, but for now you need something safe and effective.  If you insist on flowers, try Gerbera Daisies, they are colorful and beautiful but don’t presume to mean anything more than simple flowers. 

Try and think of something else, though.  Remember back to your first conversation with her.  What did you learn about her?  What one or two things stick out for you?  For example, if you met her at a dog park, she obviously has a dog and probably mentioned something he likes.  Bring her dog a gift: a toy, treat, bone, whatever she might have mentioned that day.  Bring her a flower, but bring her dog a gift. 

Or maybe you met her at a café.  If she likes that kind of coffee, you can bring her coffee beans.  Try and tie your gift into something you know about her.  This accomplishes two things:  1) you were listening to her (BIG points with this) and 2) You are original and took the time to think about her before you came over. 

You start out on a good foot with this.  If you start out on a good foot she won’t think too much if the dog hates you or if the food was bad.  Thought really does matter when it comes to dates and women recognize this.  And we appreciate it…A LOT.

So you’re dressed, smell good, your teeth are clean and you are on your way out to meet her with coffee beans and daisies in hand… Let's get you the girl