If you excuse yourself, great, if she excuses herself, fine, just make sure the conversation is cut just a little short. Leave a little hanging for the next time.You can say, “I am so sorry, Jessica, but I need to be sure Mark gets home safe or his wife will kill me.I would, however love to continue this conversation over wine in the near future.”At this point you can either give her your number and leave the ball in her court or ask her politely for hers.All you have to say is something along the lines of “What’s your number?”Again, you didn’t ask her for it, you simply asked what it is.This goes back to “no yes or no questions”.Do not ask for her email.Ever.Unless you two become BFFs there is no need to email her unless you are dating for a long time.Voice is everything.

Let me digress just a little.Notice when you excused yourself you mentioned a friend who needed to get home safely to his wife.Although you didn’t outright say you were a designated driver, you gave the impression that not only were you interested in your friend’s well being, you were interested in his wife’s emotional welfare as well as getting him home in a timely manner.Women love men who are responsible, respectful, and honest.I’ll delve more into that when we get to the actual first date, but I’ll give you a hint – women love designated drivers.We love that men show restraint and compassion towards their friends.This means they have the potential to think about things other than themselves and sex.This means they could potentially make good partners.Use this to your advantage but only in subtle ways;don’t be too obvious.

If you excuse yourself and either feel that she should have the next move, then tell her that you hate to cut the conversation short but would love to continue it over drinks in the near future.Write your number on the back of your business card and say “here’s my number”.This works if you are too scared to ask for hers.However, this is not the best way to go about this part of the game. Remember, you approached HER.It’s time to act on that approach and ask HER for HER number so that you can continue to woo HER.Women liked to be chased, to be sought after and this is where you can make her happy.

Once again, ask her what her number is.You can ask if you can have it but it won’t be nearly as effective.If she really doesn’t want you to call her, she’ll tell you, but if you ask her what her number is, she’s a lot more likely to give it to you.Not to mention you just blew the whole confident-man gig by begging for her phone number.By asking what it is, you tell her you are assuming she’ll give it to you.Do this flirtatiously since some women may get turned off by your “assumptions”.You want to make sure she doesn’t feel threatened, but also ensure that you leave a good impression.

If you can, set a date BEFORE you leave.You can say “I’m sorry I have to leave, but Jake needs to get home to his puppy.I would love to continue this conversation over another glass of wine.How does Friday look for you?”Then, depending on your answer, ask her what her number is.Once again, do not ask a yes or no question.Don’t give her an opportunity to turn you down.

Good.You have information, a date (I hope), and now…..Phase 3….